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Teen Wins Award For A Coding Program
In 2020, Sreenidi Bala, a teenager from Farmington, Connecticut, started a passion project that would change the lives of hundreds of autistic students.
My daughter, Anna, is the youngest of three children and the one who helped me to understand how important community and support are for the siblings of people with autism. As the sister of an older brother on the spectrum, Anna has always identified with autism.
What she lacked was a community of peers who understood what life with a brother or sister with a brain-based disability is like. That is, until we found Sibshops. In fact, it was largely due to Anna that I became a Sibshop facilitator in 2013. By participating in these fun, high-energy recreational opportunities monthly during the school year for several years, Anna has met other “super siblings” and learned a lot about how they and their families address autism. (“Super siblings” is Sibshops’ term for siblings of people with autism. Supporting and living with a sibling with a disability can be challenging, so super siblings often learn and mature more quickly than their peers because of their experiences.)
Considering that most children with autism have at least one brother or sister, there are a lot of super siblings like Anna out there who need fellowship and support for social-emotional needs. Emotions and attitudes about having a sibling with autism run the gamut. Sometimes parents get so caught up in the dynamics of raising a child with autism that they ignore or fail to consider the super sib’s feelings. While that is understandable, it affects not only the sibling’s immediate well-being but also the sibling’s relationship with the child with autism. And really, the longest-lasting relationship between the person with autism and any other family member is likely to be with the sibling.
These are some important take-aways from Sibshops’ super siblings:
The siblings who participate in our Sibshops have taught us that they are loving, growing, empathic, sensitive, observant, strong individuals and can handle so much more than we may have believed. They are learning life skills that are valuable to their own future and the future of their sibling. They are our future leaders, and we owe it to them to support, educate, and love them every step of their journey.
For more tips from siblings, check out OAR’s Siblings guidebooks written by siblings of people on the spectrum.
Denise Schamens, B.S., has three children, two with special needs. Because of her experience as the parent of children with special needs, she served for 10 years as a family engagement liaison for the Cooperative Educational Service Agency #1 in Wisconsin. She is currently the co-founder, vice president, and board director of Good Friend, Inc., a nonprofit organization dedicated to creating autism awareness, teaching acceptance, and fostering empathy. She has also provided autism awareness, acceptance, and empathy training to more than 40,000 K-10th grade students in Wisconsin. In 2013, she became a Sibshops facilitator.