Teen Wins Award For A Coding Program
In 2020, Sreenidi Bala, a teenager from Farmington, Connecticut, started a passion project that would change the lives of hundreds of autistic students.
When an acquaintance from my childhood showed up on my Facebook Messenger app, I gave her the benefit of the doubt, despite the fact that back then she had never gone out of her way to treat me with kindness. Now that we were in our thirties, I thought it would be hypocritical to judge someone on what they were like nearly two decades ago.
At first, she seemed genuinely interested in extending her friendship. Then I received this message from her: “Listen, Jesse! I hate to ask you this but I need 40 dollars to pay my rent. I will pay you back with my next paycheck from the hotel.” My open mind quickly turned to anger as I recalled other times individuals successfully took advantage of my trusting nature. If I had loaned her the money, I was certain both the money and this new “friend” would have disappeared forever.
This incident reminded me of what genuine friendship looks like and how real friends behave. A real friend is there for you not only during times of convenience or because they want something. These are some of the characteristics of genuine friends who are interested in friendship and not in exploiting your generosity:
People on the autism spectrum often live in a drought of friendships. Contrary to persistent myths that it is not important to us, we desperately want to be part of the social world and have relationships beyond a love affair with technology or anime culture. We deserve people who treat us like the fun and loving people we are. If you have your eyes open for those genuine friends, you will make your own luck by finding them in your place of employment or while volunteering in your community. Other times they will fall into your life as randomly and perfectly as a baseball arcing in your direction during a major league ballgame when you are not looking or trying.
Jesse A. Saperstein was diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome at age 14 after years of unresolved social difficulties. He graduated from Hobart and William Smith Colleges in 2004 with a bachelor’s degree in English. His first memoir, “Atypical” was published in 2010, and his self-help book, “Getting a Life with Asperger’s” followed in 2014. He is currently the media and activities liaison for The College Experience in Albany, N.Y. where he works with students who have intellectual challenges. In 2005 Jesse completed a 2,174-mile hike of the Appalachian Trail to benefit a Pediatric AIDS Foundation.