In middle school and high school, adolescents are asked to navigate increasingly complex social waters. Learning how to adapt to these new conditions and build strong, healthy relationships can be an overwhelming task for autistic teens, but it is an important part of ensuring good mental health.
Bullying is defined as “unwanted, aggressive behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance” (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, 2014). Bullying peaks in the middle school years and can take many different forms: physical, verbal, psychological, and even cyber. What is important to recognize is that bullying does not just happen in plain sight. Most older people can remember their neighborhood or school bully. While that type of bully still exists, bullying can happen in subtle ways, and tends to be a group activity revolving around social ties.
Given that autistic adolescents have difficulty understanding social rules and norms, they are more vulnerable to insidious types of bullying, such as exclusion from peer groups. Even after several incidents have occurred, they still may not notice that they are being bullied. They may also have a hard time realizing when they are being taken advantage of by someone who claims to be a “friend.” For these reasons, it is especially important to equip autistic adolescents with the capacity to identify well-meaning classmates and differentiate healthy relationships from unhealthy ones. Extra measures, such as school wide autism awareness and acceptance campaigns or peer buddy programs, can also be useful tools to help curb bullying and promote meaningful friendships.
It is important to note that bullying is not limited to peer-to-peer relationships. Sadly, there are adults who sometimes abuse positions of trust and engage in bullying behavior out of ignorance or plain lack of acceptance. As you teach your child about relationships and friendship, be mindful of teaching what “trusted adult” means, who they are, and most importantly, what makes them trustworthy.
The infographic below outlines 5 steps that you can take to promote healthy friendships in your teen’s life and help protect them from bullying.
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